Do You Repel Clients?

In breakups, it’s a common exit line to say, “it’s not you, it’s me”. This train of thought is that it’s kinder to the other person’s feelings or ego to shift the blame to oneself. It’s just not a good fit. There is no blame. One person is not wrong, while one person is right. The two individuals are just at different points in their journey to make a connection.

I recently took a job where I actually thought, and I am still curious about, why this person wanted to work with me. I was not a good fit. He is a great guy, and I know I am good at what I do, but I didn’t think I was the best person for what he wanted. I took the job because we have mutual friends, and I really wanted to help him. This project has taken me so long because I dreaded doing it, and it’s my fault.

Usually, my website will repel the people who are not my ideal client. Repel, just saying that word feels bad. Repel – It is a verb and is what you want to do to an unpleasant odor, a snake, or a bad joke. But, a more positive spin is “birds of a feather flock together”.  Two people with like personalities, values, or styles will attract one another. My website beckons people who like my style, prices, and process. It also guides others towards finding someone who is similar to them and will better meet their needs by “repelling” those clients from hiring me.

If you are wondering how the job turned out, it was really hard for me to rally and get it done.  I had to work through all of my self doubt and do a job out of my comfort zone. So, I  focused on what I can do instead of what I thought the client wanted. I was also reassured that the recent changes I had made to my services, which was scary because it repelled possible clients, was the right thing to do. Here’s to always learning and growing!